Change.
Looking back on my blog after many, many months of neglect has made me realize that a lot of new things have happened in about a year. It is ironic that my last real post was about being single because a month after that I started dating a wonderful man who is still a huge part of my life.
So, Change #1: Not Single!
The culprit: Ulric; carpenter by day, asleep by night. I'm sure you'll read some anecdotes involving the man so keep your eyes out for that!
Change #2: New Job!
Location: State Capitol Building. Turns out, I love the building. I didn't think I'd be good at public speaking (which is part of the job) but, turns out, I'm not too bad.
Change #3: New Pet!
Name: Artemis. Species: Feline. She's a beautiful orange rescue kitty and makes me crazy because she's just so soft!
Those are the most significant things that have happened to me over the past year, and all are changes for the better!
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Friday, September 17, 2010
Friday, October 23, 2009
Singledom
Jason: So you're back on the market then?
Becky: The Meat Market!
Me: Ugh.
Singledom, Singleness, Singlehood. It's funny how people treat this part of our lives. Many people treat Singleness like the plague-- they want to avoid it at all costs. We're all striving to find somebody and we're not content until that void is filled, even just temporarily. Do you know what I mean? We can have great relationships with family and the most supportive friends, we can go out all the time and have full social calendars, and still feel unfulfilled. What is it that compells us into romantic relationships? I've often wondered this even when I'm in the middle of a relationship myself, and perfectly happy. When I'm dating someone, why do I always think about them and want to spend all of my time with them, why do I chose this person over my best friends? My first impulse is to answer "because I'm crazy," but I really don't think that's it (at least not all of it). I think most people act this way when they are in a dating relationship. In fact, the emotions of love, lust, and infatuation are known to inhibit the rational decision making parts of the brain (so it's not just me!). And if there are any guys reading this, don't just chalk it up to me being female, I know plenty of guys who would rather be in a relationship than single-- in fact, I'm having a hard time thinking of any guys I know who would choose a life of bachelorhood. So it's not just the ladies who want "someone special."
Now, I don't personally believe in "the one" theory. In fact, it really bothers me. I don't think there's one particular person meant just for me and all I have to do is find them. Although if that were the case, I guess it would explain the high divorce rate. I mean, how easy would it be to find that one person? Not very. There are more than 6 billion people on this planet! Even if I narrow it down to just California, that's 35 million people or so that I have to sort through. And what if he gets tired of looking and settles for someone who just happens to be around? Lame for all 3 of us, right?! Nope, I don't like "the one" theory. I like to think of love as more of a choice, rather than destiny. I choose the people I date and I choose who I'm going to marry. I choose to stop looking for some other potential and choose devotion and loyalty instead. Does that sound unromantic? Maybe. But to me, it sounds lasting, and I think a love that lasts is very romantic.
If you have any theories on why we all strive to be in a romantic relationship, I'd love to hear them. I have some of my own so perhaps I'll share those another time. xoxo, Alison
Becky: The Meat Market!
Me: Ugh.
Singledom, Singleness, Singlehood. It's funny how people treat this part of our lives. Many people treat Singleness like the plague-- they want to avoid it at all costs. We're all striving to find somebody and we're not content until that void is filled, even just temporarily. Do you know what I mean? We can have great relationships with family and the most supportive friends, we can go out all the time and have full social calendars, and still feel unfulfilled. What is it that compells us into romantic relationships? I've often wondered this even when I'm in the middle of a relationship myself, and perfectly happy. When I'm dating someone, why do I always think about them and want to spend all of my time with them, why do I chose this person over my best friends? My first impulse is to answer "because I'm crazy," but I really don't think that's it (at least not all of it). I think most people act this way when they are in a dating relationship. In fact, the emotions of love, lust, and infatuation are known to inhibit the rational decision making parts of the brain (so it's not just me!). And if there are any guys reading this, don't just chalk it up to me being female, I know plenty of guys who would rather be in a relationship than single-- in fact, I'm having a hard time thinking of any guys I know who would choose a life of bachelorhood. So it's not just the ladies who want "someone special."
Now, I don't personally believe in "the one" theory. In fact, it really bothers me. I don't think there's one particular person meant just for me and all I have to do is find them. Although if that were the case, I guess it would explain the high divorce rate. I mean, how easy would it be to find that one person? Not very. There are more than 6 billion people on this planet! Even if I narrow it down to just California, that's 35 million people or so that I have to sort through. And what if he gets tired of looking and settles for someone who just happens to be around? Lame for all 3 of us, right?! Nope, I don't like "the one" theory. I like to think of love as more of a choice, rather than destiny. I choose the people I date and I choose who I'm going to marry. I choose to stop looking for some other potential and choose devotion and loyalty instead. Does that sound unromantic? Maybe. But to me, it sounds lasting, and I think a love that lasts is very romantic.
If you have any theories on why we all strive to be in a romantic relationship, I'd love to hear them. I have some of my own so perhaps I'll share those another time. xoxo, Alison
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